Impotence and a Man's Self Esteem

Many men experience impotence at some point during their life. Most men simply don't like to think about this possibility. These men take the idea of impotence very personally. Typically, they do not stop to learn the physical and emotional reasons for impotency that can affect men during their life.

One of the great challenges of impotency is its affect on a man's self-esteem. Many men feel like "less than" a man. Somehow, they feel as if they have failed at the task of being a man if they are impotent. Being impotent makes them feel powerless and very often out of control.

Some men get very angry when they become impotent. Alternatively, they "clam up" and refuse to talk to anyone, especially their wife or girlfriend. This makes the problem even harder, as sometimes this person they love so much can help them discover the cause for their impotency if they would just talk to them. The problem of impotency often trickles through their life and affects their other relationships, work and personal life.

Many men judge themselves on their perceived sexuality. Some experts will say that men have eggshell fragile egos, but that is not always true. However, when something like impotency comes to the forefront, most men tend to feel a bit wobbly. Their self-worth, judged by their sexual performance feels very shaky when they are unable to perform sexually. These men know that something is wrong, unfortunately, often they do not reach out to get the help they need.

The most important thing to understand when a man experiences impotency is that it is not his fault. Every man experiences this at some point during his lifetime. Even young men in their twenties can experience impotency. Impotency can be the cause of stress, medications that you take or even your physical health. When a man experiences impotency, they should visit their primary care physician to get help with this problem. Help is always available. Many times a man's impotency can be helped with medication or other suggestions.

When a man is impotent, encourage him not to feel so badly about himself. Some men may not talk about it, but chances are they do not feel good about themselves. Men need to understand that they are more than simply their sexual performance. Men have been trained since birth that they are here to "do" things for women. They are providers and protectors. Therefore, it does make sense that they would feel a lack of self-esteem when they would be unable to perform sexually.

Every man has help readily available to him if he has this problem. Some men may need some encouragement to go get the help they need. Men should feel positive about impotency in some ways knowing that most often the cause is physical or emotional because this means that there is a tangible solution to the problem. Men are "do-ers" at heart: we know that every man likes a good solution!